Advice from Paradise: A New UTR Advice Column
May 02, 2014 Nedelle Torrisi
Here at Under the Radar, we talk to you about music (a lot). It’s kind of our thing. But this relationship shouldn’t just be a one-way street…
We are excited to introduce you to our friend, Nedelle Torrisi. You may know her from her work with Xiu Xiu, Ariel Pink’s Haunted Graffiti, Saturday Looks Good to Me, and Sufjan Stevens’ band, or from her beautiful solo work. You may not know that she’s also a peddler of good, honest relationship advice—a talent she’s graciously offered to share with us. Effective immediately, Nedelle will be taking your questions in our new recurring column, Advice from Paradise.
Below are some recent Q&As with Nedelle, each piece of advice with a song suggestion to boot! Once you’re ready to reach out, you can email your question to .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) (or if you’re feeling shy, you can submit anonymously instead at www.advicefromparadise.com/ask).
The Novelties of Dating
So, in regards to him wanting to thin out contact between you two, the best case scenario is that he’s trying to spare you the unfulfilling life of “living for the phone call.” And, to play devil’s advocate a bit more, there is no rule about how often you should be in contact. Once a day seems reasonable, but so does three times a week. You know? Quality not quantity. Phone sex is quality, for example. : )
Ok, so the worst case scenario is that he’s trying to drift away from you on purpose, and he’s not telling you directly. Or, he is just kinda selfish, and needs even more time and space than those 3000 miles affords him.
If you decide to try and make it work, you have to agree upon a system that pleases you both. If you can’t agree, and one person is left unsatisfied and neglected, then maybe it’s best to take this time apart to actually BE apart, and regroup. Good luck, honey! (West Coast 4 Lyfe!)
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